Thoughts About The Wedding: Not Crying

I didn't cry. If you knew Mo in the real world, you would know me to cry all the time. I cry when I'm upset, hurt, angry, stressed, you name an emotion, I've cried due to it.

So why didn't I cry at my own wedding? I have no idea. Our friend Brian did a great job officiating our ceremony, our first look was beautiful and timed perfectly, our friends made fantastic toasts, and we had a sweet first dance. All wonderful opportunities to cry!

I'm afraid that my lack of crying was from being too involved in the planning. Maybe I couldn't separate myself from all of the logistics and just be in the moment of getting married. Maybe my mind was too wrapped up in what was going on around me rather than what was going on right in front of me.

Did you cry?


Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

I only cried during the toasts. I was kinda numb or something during the ceremony. I think I was exhausted during the toasts. Luckily my makeup smeared perfectly and friends thought I purposely did my eyeliner that way.

ruthy ann said...

Same thing with me! I specifically didn't wear false eyelashes because I thought I would cry buckets of tears. I few came...but for the most part I was shocked at my lack of tears!

Born to be Mrs. Beever said...

I totally hear you, girl! I am exactly like you and was shocked that I did not really cry other than one time (which I blogged about last week) when I was alone with our videographer :)

Other than that, no tears at all...so strange.

I don't know why it is/was...or for you other. But my assumption is that even though you had no tears, you had a massive amount of other emotions and excitement that more than made up for it.

I have to say, I did totally cry when I saw our wedding video trailer - it took me back to those moments and I could feel them more I think after the fact. :)

Kathleen said...

I cried at the rehearsal dinner, but I think that was mostly because my best friend told a horrifyingly embarrassing story. I choked up when I started down the aisle but was all pulled together by about halfway there. Didn't cry at all the rest of the night! I don't think it's necessarily because your brain is elsewhere, I think it's just such a unique position to be in that you can't know how you'll react until you're in those moments. I'm not much of a happy-crier, so I guess that's probably why I didn't... I did a lot of smiling and laughing though. Anyway, you're not alone!

BigAppleNosh said...

I'm a big crier as well, who did not cry at my wedding! Granted, I'm a sad/angry/frustrated crier, and I wasn't feeling those emotions as much on that day :)

Amberdawn said...

I'm so nervous about crying; I've sort of accepted it as inevitability. Cause when I try to fight it, forget it, I start blubbering.

Krista said...

Not a tear out of me. Not as I walked down the aisle and Wade started to cry. Not as we said our vows, and Wade had to pause to catch his breath because he was crying. Not during the toasts, the first dance, or anything.

And I usually cry at everything. I cry at every wedding, and even some tv/movie weddings.

I think I was too happy and too ecstatic to cry, if that makes sense?

Serious Craft said...

I hope to see my guy cry because he almost never cries. :)

Myself, I would like to not cry during the occasion. Maybe I'll have to bawl it out beforehand, haha. Normally I'm very emotional too.

Gaynor said...

I didnt cry either; had a couple of moments and hubby was teary when I got down the aisle but I managed not too; think I was so focussed on not crying!

I think my bridesmaids were crying during our vows but thankfully it was G looking at them and not me!

Mo said...

Glad I'm not the only one who was a little too hyped up/numb/ecstatic/focused to be crying!

@Chic 'n Cheap: I love when that happens, or when you fall asleep with eyeliner on and it's all smudged and smokey in the morning.

@Born to be Mrs. Beever: Ahhh yeah everything went by so quickly that I can't really wait to see pictures so I can actually take my time and re-live what happened. Maybe I'll cry then too!

@Kathleen: Oh dear, that sounds awful, I'm so sorry. Shouldn't your best friend know better???

@Krista: This sounds a lot like what happened to me. The boy cried, my sisters cried, my friends cried...there was nothing out of me. I think like @Gaynor, I was really focused and the tears just didn't come out.

buhdoop said...

I didn't cry surprisingly. I was just happy that everything was running smoothly. And my fiance (husband) was so nervous it loosened me up a lot.

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