Thoughts About The Wedding: Not Having Fun

I know I know. I said it was freakin' fantastic in my first post. And it was, it was everything I had imagined visually: the weather was gorgeous, the wine was flowing and the cupcakes were being ogled (and later eaten), we were wearing the fanciest clothes we've ever worn, and each table had roses and owl cookies. I'm actually quite touched by our friends and family telling us the past few days how amazing the event was, because we already know how much effort I exerted all for July 3rd, 2010.

But I can't help but think that there just wasn't enough time to talk to everyone I wanted to talk to, not enough time to take the photos I wanted, not enough time to spend with my family. I just felt pulled in a lot of different directions, and at one point got really frustrated from my mother and the boy's dad tacking on about 15 unplanned group shots. I wanted to dance more. I wanted to mingle. I wanted to be silly. I wanted to be having more fun. I wanted more time.

Our venue coordinator, Emma, pulled me aside right before our grand entrance, and said "You're not having fun, and I want you to have fun. Can I get you anything? Are you alright?"

I guess it's kinda bad when someone notices, no?

Maybe I should have cloned myself beforehand and been a guest at my own wedding.


Serious Craft said...

Even though the wedding was decently long, I did feel like it could've been even longer. It was nice chilling around the courtyard during the day, and then dancing after dinner. But I would've enjoyed more time chitchatting and taking pics with you guys. Of course that's not all up to your choice with time, with the venue and all.

For my reception, we have the place the entire day and night. We want to make the most of it by having an extra long session. You think people will dig that? We have so many ideas for activities, but I don't want to force people into a space either.

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

Sorry that you felt this way dear. I felt a bit like this and we had more guests than we anticipated.

Savor the moments you did have and the fun you experienced.

Also be glad you were not my friend who got married in India and had 2000 guests (or is it 5000?) at her wedding. They were mostly her dad's business associates because he was high up at his company.

MayLove said...

I know exactly how you feel! Everyone was running behind for our wedding, so we had hardly any time to enjoy our reception. Because the photographer made us so late, we almost missed our photos outside of the reception hall (chosen b/c it was so beautiful, and fit our theme). My husband had to drag the photographer, and the bridal party(most of them) away from dinner to take the photos. We missed all of dinner, and all the time we were supposed to be visiting each table. We only got to talk to half our guests; most were leaving by time we got back. I totally know what you mean, and I think its perfectly acceptable to be upset, and talk about things that didn't go well. Everyone expects the bride to say everything was perfect, but that's just not the case. No wedding is without flaw. I know exactly where you're coming from!!

Krista said...

I'm sorry you didn't have as much fun as you'd hoped for. I hope you are able to look back at it with fond memories? If you want more pictures, you could think of a "day after" photo session. (We did it a month after!) Or a trash-the-dress. At least you'll feel better about that one factor.

Amberdawn said...

That's a shame that you didn't get to really enjoy all your hard work. I hope your honeymoon is more fun! :)

Mo said...

I feel better. Thank you as always for listening to my rants.

@chic n' cheap: That's good advice, I think maybe I'm just being a debbie downer because I'm at work and not on my honeymoon yet haha. And when the boy read this post he flipped out and said "whaaaat. Of course you had fun! It was incredible! You just don't remember! Just wait for the photos, you'll remember so many great things that happened that day." More time and getting over this next wedding will probably make everything better.

Re: your friend's wedding, 2000???? That's like a small town!! I bow down to her and her patience and smiling skills.

@MayLove: Thank you so much for letting me know I wasn't the only bride that felt a little rushed. :)

There was definitely some lateness at our wedding, so I can relate! And, I'm really sorry about your photographer, he/she should be the one on the ball! Did you smack him/her in the head and say hey, buddy. We've got a schedule. Tick tock.

@Krista: I'm hoping the long vacation will help and that floods of memories come back to me w/the pictures! I think we'll be good with the pics, we had two amazing photographers following us around. :)

Posh Play said...

I thought all of these same things after our wedding. It is over so fast and you do all this planning for so long it is hard to believe how quickly it is over.

The post wedding letdown is rough. You will see it differently soon!

honey my heart said...

it was so tough knowing that i could not be everywhere and do everything i wanted, but i just thought of all the good and soak it in. hope you feel better :)

The Less Than Domestic Goddess said...

I think what you are feeling is completely normal. Give it some time. I was quite critical of everything right after our wedding. It helped to have a mini-moon the following weekend, so we had a little time to unwind and relax. Wait until your see your pictures - you'll be excited all over again! Don't worry, Mo! :)

The Professional Bridesmaid said...

That's too bad...but to be honest (and mind you, I've never been the bride), no matter what you did or didn't do that day, there would have never been enough time to spend time with everyone, dance more, to be silly more...unfortunately, time goes by too fast when you're having fun. So remember that, you did have fun, b/c it went by so quickly! Luckily you'll have some awesome pics to allow you to jump back in time every once in awhile.

Savoir Weddings said...

If it helps, this is very common and most brides feel this at least in small part. I would just accept it as part of the wedding process and not beat yourself up about it.x

MayLove said...

LOL- I wish I had! I probably would have gotten better pictures. We thought they were the experts, and knew what they were doing. Now that we've complained to the company about how upset we are with the results their response has gone from "You're hiring a professional leave all the worries to us" to "well if you didn't like it you should have said something to them" --ok, but you told us to rest assured you had it all under control, so WTF?

Born to be Mrs. Beever said...

The cloning thing is a fantastic idea! I second that totally! I also felt like even though I had fun, I wasn't really experiencing the moments because everything was flying by so dang fast! We definitely didn't have enough time for all the pictures I wanted even when we had our photogs show up 5 hours before the ceremony and had it all planned out :( And I felt like I didn't talk to a lot of the people I wanted to as well...definitely didn't dance nearly enough. But at least all my guests had a blast.

Gaynor said...

Sorry you didnt have fun!

I totally agree about no time to speak to anyone too. I tried to make sure I at least talked to the people who had come from overseas then we did make sure we did a receiving line so I def said at least hi to everyone!

I did spend some time dancing and at one point sat down with some family then sat down with some friends, to try and enjoy it all!

It was so hard and I def felt the day had flown by when it was time for everyone to leave!

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